I need to talk some more about Son of Baldwin stealing my intellectual property.
About Robert Jones Jr’s/Son of Baldwin’s feeble attempts to co-opt my voice.
And about the countless people who had no problem hitting up my inbox and phone for free counseling and bottomless empathy and surrogate mothering
Yet when the proof of Robert’s/Son of Baldwin’s bullshit was laid plain, they had NOTHING to say to back me up, and were still fans of his.
Cause that ain’t got nothin to do with me, that’s between y’all.
Just shut up, and keep breaking down white supremacy, because your words are helping me.
You’re a strong Black woman. I don’t need to support you.
I came across an inbox from that time—it was just in July.
Helen Lee was a woc, a Korean chick whose white friends did her DIRTY.
She and I found each other via my facebook community. She saw me when I called Robert/Son of Baldwin out on May 11.
We became friends, and I thought I had a sister.
But I laid Robert/Son of Baldwin’s abuses plain, and she STILL took his side, actin like she didn’t see what the problem was, when the timestamps and screencaps told the whole story.
That shit still hurts me.
Helen then had the nerve to send people my way.
Some young man looking for ‘Black thinkers’ online.
I asked him how he found me and he said Helen sent him to my page.
If I don’t fuck with you no more because you don’t have a problem with my intellect being abused and my voice being co-opted by a gay Black man in New York, WHY THE FUCK are you sending people to me?
We’re not friends anymore because you don’t have a problem with me being abused, so why are you still talking about me? Why is my name in your mouth?
After they had nothing to say to back me up, I stopped being available to a LOT of people, and I almost quit.
BLACK WOMEN unsubscribed from me (Kristen Bonner) because they didn’t think I should be talking about the shit with Robert/Son of Baldwin out loud! They didn’t want me to put him on blast!
I will never get over how BLACK WOMEN saw everything that happened with Robert/Son of Baldwin,
refused to unequivocally back me up, even with the proof staring them in the face,
remained subscribed to him,
and STILL had the fuckin ovaries to hit me up and ask me to please address specific aspects of Black womanhood under white supremacy, because of things they were going through in their personal lives (Dorrie Cox).
Black women drank that patriarchy Kool-Aid and treated me like a goddamn vending machine.
People are just so gone off abuse culture and so USED to the gaslighting and the playing innocent and playing dumb that abusers do to us that anybody bucking that and fighting that is looked at as ‘crazy’ and ‘petty’ and ‘immature’ and is not supported.
They know the abusive gaslighter (Robert/Son of Baldwin) is wrong, but they can’t support me because I’m too uppity!
I’m not staying in a colored gal’s place as mule of the world, existing solely for the betterment of YOUR fucking ‘community’, for free!
And WHITE WOMEN were my biggest supporters during the worst of it.
BLACK women largely ignored me, but white women were the people who spoke up and called a spade a motherfucking spade, and I’m so grateful for that, yet feel so torn about that.
Cause that tells me that MY OWN PEOPLE were willing to throw me under the bus
But white women were willing to help me out.
There’s words to be said about how Black women uphold abuse culture, and how we be actin like we need to support any Black man being ‘positive’, even if it’s at the expense and abuse of a Black woman.
Within two weeks of me putting Robert/Son of Baldwin on blast a SECOND time, about 10 people who refused to support me openly had the audacity to come to me on some
“Hey, these white people at my job fuckin with me, please help me.”
Gay Black men were the WORST about this.
I quit fucking with at least 5 of them (the one that hurt the most was J. Douglas Turner/morenamagia/queerqueenofcolor/zorascreation) behind this shit, cause they had nothing to say in support of me, right?
But after wanting to ride with their fellow gay Black man when they KNOW his ass was wrong, they still had the nerve to ask me for help.
And I just don’t understand how SO MANY PEOPLE see me as an object to be used for the betterment of everybody, but only if MY intellect and wit can be co-opted by a man.
And fuck that, seriously.
When you side with my oppressors, I can’t fuck with you.
And it might take me a minute to sit and think about what you did and didn’t do and cut you out of my life, but don’t act innocent when I finally do.
I swear, every time I see his name reblogged on my dash, I am filled with rage.
Boosting this because this is another example of that dude acting like his shit doesn’t stink.
Im still in shock at how people (mostly black american women) jumped on sonofbaldwin’s dick when he said hugely inaccurate things about African queers and when said African Queers (AQ) explained to him why his theory was not only wrong but based on his own American standards of sexuality and imperialism, he bitched and acted like he knew far more about African Queers’ lives than we actual AQs did. But the amount of people that supported his arse because he’s a western gay black man.
keep sucking on that patriarchy folks
sonofbaldwin fucks up perpetually. please signal boost this guys…