A reminder to third-wave young feminists who are feeling personally attacked when their attackers are interested in accountability
- It doesn’t matter how sweet and wonderful you are, or if you have good intentions: oppressing another with a smile is still oppression.
- It’s okay to make mistakes and fuck up; people will generally forgive you if you actually listen to their grievances, admit to your mistake, and work toward making it better. Pretending there is no problem, or running away from the problem, digs you into a bigger whole than you’re already in and lessens your number in allies.
- Context is everything: nobody knows everything, but if you proclaim yourself as a feminist, it should be just as important to know about trans*phobia as it is to know about rape culture. You should aim to progress in your knowledge, not stagnate.
- Look, not being inclusive and intersectional will be the downfall of any social movement that claims to be feminist in this day and age, period. And if you go on pretending that its not, even as people are telling you in “nice ways,” don’t be surprised when they have harsh words for you when you mess up big time.