from tina fey blaming women of color’s body types for the standards and expectations placed on women, caitlin moran saying it’s sexist to ask a white writer to include women of color in their shows, lena dunham excluding people of color in her show because it’s not important to her goals, to jessica valenti criticizing michelle obama for valuing her role as a parent over everything else in her life
it’s clear that the feminist movement doesn’t want me
there’s so much of self proclaimed feminists throwing woc and tpoc under the bus under the guise of wanting equality. the feminist movement has been warped into this idea that underrepresented people must suck it up, shut up, and fall in line with the popular white spokeswomen in front if they want women in general to be respected and have success.
well what if my idea of success is being dedicated to something i love and living in a way that makes me happy, however subtle or blatant my role in society?
if beyonce wants to write songs about catering to the love of her life, let her. if a mother wants to stay at home and take care of her kids, let her. if a girl is tired and can’t carry her bike up the stairs, let her accept another man’s request to carry it for her. if a woman wants to act in a way that doesn’t make herself or others feel dehumanized, let her.
feminists declare sexism! when woc don’t want people appropriating their culture.
feminists declare sexism! when woc want some representation
am i not a woman as well?
i declared myself as a feminist originally because i thought feminism was about the bottom line — wanting respect as the person i am.
but if the frontrunning feminists keep picking and choosing qualifiers for respectable women in a way that discounts the needs of people of color, i’m not going to be here for that.